Barry's Blog

Dunfermline based web developer, long lost brother, husband, father, & guitarist

adoption

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Adoption and me

The inconvenient Child Growing up as a child is never easy, growing up as a child without any sense of connection to the world around you even more so. This was my reality, my take on the world around me growing up. I always knew I was adopted and roughly knowing what that meant and for the most part I was ok with it. I was raised by good people, my adopted father was a carpenter and adopted mother a school teacher. I almost never… View More

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Forgiveness: A meeting with my birth mother

As I posted before, my sister found me after 40 years and I also found out I have a half brother and half sister. During all this I was also told that our birth mother is also on Facebook. This was something I was not prepared for (neither was finding out I had a sisterā€¦.) In the back of my mind I always knew siblings as well as birth mother were a possibility. But finding them, coming face to face is something else. Since then I… View More

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Birth Mother - Family is family

Interesting how times move on, what was a massive issue one minuet is at best a minor incident at best the next. I Don't know how to explain it, but of late I have been getting to know my birth mother. Some weeks ago I went around to her house for coffee and chat. going in i felt something. Was it… View More

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Connecting with family

Spent the day with my daughter having taken her to my birth mother's house. Was so nice to see her just accepting and chatting away. It seems she's totally accepting of me having two mothers, she's really a godsend.… View More

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Family - When the grass is always greener on the other side

With all the goings on in my life I would have to say that being found by my sister has to be both the most traumatic and most uplifting of all of them. I was raised by a wonderful adoptive parents. Really, I went without very little and although there was never any malice or abuse there was still a spark missing. I'd look at my wife's family especially when… View More

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Finding my half brother and sister

I was found by my sister after 40 years apart. I chronicalled this here, little did I know what I had lying in store for me. In the process of trying to find our dad we looked for marriage or death certificates and we found a marriage certificates for him. We were also able to find out he had 2 children a boy called Andrew Clark, and a girl called Lesley Clark. The thought of… View More

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Being found by my sister: 1 year on

Today marks the 1 year anniversary of me being found by my sister after 41 years apart. (documented here) It marks the end of not being connected to the world around me (With obvious… View More

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Family update

Currently on holidays but thought I'd post an update on how things are going. My Birth Mother My birth mother and I still remain close and we have had long heart felt chats about our feelings and have been there for each other. Having my birth mother there makes everything feel so nice. Big sister Big sister and I remain as close as ever. I do try to not over crowd her and let her and her partner have as… View More

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The Pitfalls of Tracing Birth Family as an Adoptee

As an adoptee myself I have some experience in the area of tracing family members and the whole maze of pitfalls that surround it. I'm not an expert in this, but I will give what information and advice I have picked up and you may take it for what it is worth. Not all doors can be opened You can't unscramble eggs. Not a funny quote just a fact. You can't unlearn what you learn, and once you start your journey you could find… View More